How are you doing friend? Are you a woman in your 30s who feels a little anxious about getting older?

You know how we get, worrying about the wrinkles, confused about where our energy and vitality went off to, and a little distressed about our need to wear our glasses and girdles more frequently than we did before.

If that’s you boo, you are not alone. Many women struggle with the transition from their 30s to their 40s, especially in a society that values youth and beauty above wisdom and experience.

Left unchecked, those things can put a damper on our confidence as we enter our 40s.

But guess what? You don’t have to dread your 40s. 

In fact, you can embrace them and enjoy being grown and sexy in your own way.  Here are some tips on how to do that:

1. Celebrate Your Achievements

I see you. You have accomplished so much in your 30s, and I love that for you. Whether it’s in your career, family, education, hobbies or all that beautiful, undeniable personal growth.

Sis, you have gained wisdom, skills, experience and resilience that make you a strong, valuable and unique person. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 

Be proud of yourself and celebrate your achievements, big and small.

2. Take Care of Your Health

Our 40s are gonna be the time to pay more attention to your physical and mental well-being. 

You may notice some changes in your body, such as slower metabolism, lower energy levels, hormonal fluctuations or signs of ageing. Don’t panic. 

These are normal and inevitable parts of life. The best thing we can do is to take care of ourselves by eating well, exercising regularly, sleeping enough, managing stress and getting regular check-ups. 

You will feel better, look better and delay or even completely prevent many health problems.

3. Express Your Style

I once had a friend say to me, ‘Well Annisha, you getting older, you have to stop wearing short pants now man’.

I’m not sure if Sis was being judgy on my sense of style and that I love shorts, but quite frankly, it flew right over my head.

My sense of style has evolved over the years. It has nothing to do with getting older and more about getting to enjoy different styles.

That being said, our 40s are a time to express our personal style and flaunt our assets. 

You know what suits you best, what makes you feel comfortable and confident, and what reflects your personality and mood. 

Don’t be afraid to experiment with new trends, colours, accessories or hairstyles. You can also update your wardrobe, makeup and skincare routine to suit your changing needs and preferences. 

My big sister Akisha put me on this YouTube Channel “10 Ways to Wear It”. The host has a great sense of style.  She recently did a video on why women should not dress their age and I loved it.  Take a look and let me know what you think.

Remember, style is not about age, it’s about attitude. Okkurr.

4. Nurture Your Relationships

Not gonna lie, taking the time to nurture relationships with the people who matter most has been a struggle for me in the last few years. But I’m working on it, and I hope you are as well.

We all may have partners, children, parents, siblings, friends or colleagues who support us, love us and enrich our lives.  Make time for them, communicate with them, appreciate them and have fun with them. 

You may also find that you are changing relationships, some friendships have faded with the understanding that they won’t be repaired.  That’s ok.  Just be sure that, as far as possible, end all relationships with ease and grace.

You may also want to expand your social circle by joining clubs, groups or communities that share your interests or values.  If you are interested in learning about building your confidence, leadership and public speaking skills, you should check out Toastmasters International.  It is “a nonprofit educational organization that builds confidence and teaches public speaking skills through a worldwide network of clubs that meet online and in person”.

I am a proud member, so message me if you would like to know more.  You never know who you might meet or what you might learn.

5. Pursue Your Passions

I just have a feeling that our 40s are gonna be THE time to pursue your passions and dreams. 

We may have put some of them on hold in our 30s due to various reasons, such as work, family or finances. 

But now bayyyybeeee!  We have more freedom, resources and courage to go after what we want. 

Whether it’s travelling, learning, creating, volunteering or starting a business, you can do it. Don’t let fear or doubt stop you. 

Follow your heart and enjoy the journey.

Thank you for reading, and be sure to share this with other growth-oriented millennials who may need a reminder that the best is yet to come our 40s will be fascinating. Period.

Have a beautiful week, and keep doing your most!